Many would have felt it in varying measures of ‘crushes’.
A person who is infatuated by a potential limerent medium (their crush) would undergo mood swings and feelings of intense joy and frustrations.
We have the crazy-in-love, the head-over-heels-in-love, the sort-of-in-love, and the am-I-in-love? But there are other darker forms of love, and limerence is one big word that hangs precariously in these shades of love, edging somewhere between liking someone and being insanely mad about them. Psychologist Dorothy Tennov, describes Limerence as an involuntary cognitive and emotional state in which a person feels an intense romantic desire for another person (the limerent object).
But in simpler terms, limerence is a state of mind when you know that you like someone but yet at the same time, you can’t describe it as love.
But you would also be crazy about this person and to the world, you would proclaim this form of affection as a crush.
Limerence is a dangerous feeling that just can’t be explained.
But a limerent fantasy is not the typical fantasy of cuddling or fiery passion.You protect them from someone, when they’re in a fight. And all sorts of fantasies where the end result isn’t sex or a cuddle, but gratitude.This can happen to all of us, so you really don’t have to feel awkward about accepting it.Most of the fantasies involve rescuing them from perilous situations or proclamations of love at dying moments! Limerence is always assumed to be the same as love, but it is actually very far from it.You look more for gratitude rather than physical attraction in your fantasies. In love, you want to share the best moments of your life with someone special, but when you’re struck by limerence, all you want is this person’s attention.