But I believe that it’s time to examine the pervasive, inner workings of heterosexual conditioning that, whether any of us in the bisexual community want to admit or not, have doomed so many bisexual/lesbian pairings to failure.
While I understand that I can’t speak for anyone else’s experiences, I’ve written this article with two particular perspectives in mind:1.
I would receive notifications all of the time either from women saying they were interested in meeting up – or – instant messages along the lines of, “Hi, you look hot”… Most of them wouldn’t have read my profile and when I asked them if they had, they would either block me, or say they wanted to be friends only.
Like those who flee the tumults of city life for quieter and less complicated pastures, bisexual women may seem destined, in the eyes of gay women, to trade the grit and hardships of queer life for the suburbs of heteroville.
For any woman the whole idea of dating is one that terrifies most of us.
As many woman reading this will identify – most of us have a hang up about our bodies in some way or another.
I’ve left now, but I intend to go back as soon as I have the availability to enable me to. For the first time in a new situation socially I took the decision to not out myself. As I made friends over the coming weeks and months of people in the choir of course people I became close to either guessed or I told them. A guy who I had always gotten on with brought his daughter to the choir and as soon as I saw her I did a little intake of breath. That night we were sitting chatting and it was as if she and I were the only 2 people in the universe. She was everything that I ever wanted in a relationship and more. The sex I have just keeps getting better and better.
She was gender fluid, a bit of a tomboy but something just sparkled. Speaking about it in retrospect she says she felt the same. But in finding someone who I clicked with on every level, on finding someone who I could just be myself with. I have learned more about what sex is in the last 10 and bit months, than I ever did in any past relationship. So in doing the things I love, I now have a relationship with someone who is without doubt the most wonderful human being I have ever met. You will meet the woman who will accept all that you are – you just haven’t met her yet.