“So even if they do something bad or say something that’s off, you may think, ‘He’s only this way because he went through X.’ This is when ticking boxes of ‘Is he rude to the waiter? “But underlying it, if he says things like, ‘So they’ll treat us better the next time,’ or he has a mean mouth towards some people, if you find yourself justifying his transactional mindset or meanness, then it’s time to pause and step back. But it’s how you handle those disagreements that can really make or break things. “If you use somebody, you don’t really care about them, or their well-being, or their overall happiness in life. It’s almost like life is there to meet their needs and people are just commodities to get that done.” – Shannon Thomas, a therapist who wrote the book “Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse“ “Since red flags happen along the way road of abuse, victims see different behaviors as time and abuse goes on.
Our brains work overtime to convince us of someone who’s not good for us, even when our guts know it.” – Perpetua Neo, a psychologist and expert in toxic relationships who created the Detox Your Heart program “I’d say the one major red flag in a person’s behavior that may indicate that the relationship won’t work is the unwillingness to talk through issues, big or small. “The first thing to look for is your own intuition and listening to your gut – if you have the feeling something is wrong, things aren’t adding up, then trust that.
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It is totally up to you to make our relationship work.’ “It is also likely to mean that they are unable to see people in an integrated and realistic way.
If you prove hard to control quickly, an abuser will back off, and you will save yourself heartache.” – Tracy Malone, a relationship expert on You Tube “One major red flag in relationships is when everyday life, events, conversations, and basic interactions are frequently about that person – where there’s constant manipulation and abuse of power over you.
“For instance, you could confront the person you’re dating about something they did or said that hurt you.
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