Online dating search criteria

They’ve taken our immediate social circle out of dating, so you can do what you want without ever having to deal with the judgement of a peer group.

Women can enjoy casual sex if they want, without having to deal with the inane stigma of being labelled a slut.

However, it also makes it easier for us to close ourselves entirely to the potential of ‘non-ideal’ candidates, some of whom may like hats and smoked bacon but be great anyway.

Depending on what you’re looking for online, this can be problematic because, interestingly, we are terrible at knowing what we actually want, and should really have a lot less faith in our criteria.

We create online dating profiles with a strong idea of the sorts of characteristics we want our future partner to have, and we swipe through the available options with these characteristics in mind.

In one sense, online dating platforms have done much good.

When we have first-person experience of the consequences of our behaviour, we behave more conscientiously.

When we can hide behind something (like a phone), we’re less responsible.

About three years ago, I was sitting with a female friend in a bar on a frantic Saturday night in Dublin.

By the end of the night, several worse-for-wear men had wandered in our direction and attempted – some more ably than others – to strike up a conversation.

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