But there are also plenty of people who are uncomfortable with Taylor and Paulson’s 32-year age difference.
One of the most-liked Facebook comments on the article reads: “This is really gross.
(Both women requested not to be named for this story, to protect the sensitive nature of T’s professional life.) Strangers are always trying to figure out how they’re related.
T has a 5-year-old son; when the whole family is out together, M is sometimes assumed to be the nanny. “As a mixed black woman,” M says, “that plays into [other people’s] assumptions whenever [T] walks into the room.”M finds that when she does get prying age-related questions, they tend to be from straight men, who will openly question her and T’s compatibility.
They joked about their jobs and Dungeons & Dragons.
“I hadn’t had that close a friendship in years, honestly,” Martela adds.
Michelle and Cara were photographed leaving a London restaurant together, looking very coupley.
Everybody’s cool with women dating up, so long as the older person they’re dating is a man.
Increased visibility for intergenerational lesbian relationships doesn’t only shed light on the public discomfort they inspire — these depictions also reflect the real-life lesbians who’ve been dating like this since the dawn of always.
Misunderstandings with warped oedipal undertones often plague queer women in intergenerational relationships.
Once, the author and poet Eileen Myles was checking out at a store with a younger woman she was dating at the time, when the cashier asked her, “How are you doing today, Mom?