All I AM saying is that based on your own experience, a high percentage of men disappoint. After all, you ever have a good date with a guy but not feel strongly enough to see him again? THIS is what I see over and over and over again Your solution is not to change men. Your solution is to understand that rejection and failure happens to EVERYONE. Nonetheless, we went out for drinks and dinner tonight. So although we spent a long time getting to know one another and seemed to have mutual attraction, and rather powerful chemistry (ok, we kissed! But in this case, I would be REALLY surprised if we didn’t go out again. What I love about this email is how it illustrates Lorraine’s growth as a single woman in the dating world. Ask yourself if you’d be as positive, patient, forgiving and confident as she was. He’s not into sports at all, it was that he liked THE STORY.
Too short, too fat, too old, too nice, too boring, not enough money, too many other dating options? She didn’t get derailed when the guy disappeared the first time. If not – and if you’d like to approach dating like Lorraine, you can reach me here. Warmest wishes and much love, Evan His biggest crime, apparently, was that he met another woman first and was honest enough to – gasp! I have you to thank for that, I would never have thought about that had I not listened to your advice. Particularly timely given that dude that I had such a fun time with and am annoyingly so attracted to has yet to call again.
You can overrreact to each seemingly personal slight, or you can deal with it in a graceful and detached manner like Lorraine. I couldn’t disagree with Kristy more as far as her logic for not giving the guy Lorraine went on a date with a 2nd chance.
I currently have 4 or 5 “backups” because I’m focusing most of my attention on one guy at the moment.
I’ve told a couple prospects the honest truth of what my delay has been in scheduling a date, and they all take it in stride asking me to contact them if and when the guy I’m focusing on doesen’t work out.
Why is it that men take this stuff objectively but often women tend to get “offended” at the same information?
No, the problem is that you EXPECT anything different. I am NOT telling you to accept all their bad behavior. Well, 2 weeks or so after that conversation, he phoned me again, and told me that things didn’t work out with that other lady and asked me out. I rarely feel as comfortable on a first date as I did with him, like we really “clicked”. And she has a really great chance of going on a second date with a man about whom she’s quite excited.
It’s time to fully embrace and celebrate what makes you special and unique. And rather than being influenced by the pessimistic energy of others, this song reminds you to celebrate your authentic self and keep a positive outlook.8. Don’t let being single or having a broken heart keep you from taking in all that life has to offer. You certainly don’t need to be in a relationship to have fun. Remember, even if you’ve been hurt in the past, you still have the power to get up and get moving.11. Speaking of perseverance, being single actually enables you to be singly great.
I find this man incredibly shallow and disrespectful. Will he also do this to Lorraine (have a gal on the sidelines so to speak) in case Lorraine doesn’t work out to HIS expectations? With the comment he made “if things don’t work out, I will call you” would have most women thinking what a jerk!
Conveniently, Lorraine was available-wonder how much respect for her is going on?
This is long, so make sure you have 5 minutes to yourself. Maybe you’ve been emailing and talking on the phone every night for a week.
Maybe you had an effortless first date that lasted until 2am.