We’re definitely not all the same in personality either.Plus, being trans means different things to different people.
On a date, I want to be treated as any other woman does.
When I told him I have a vagina, he replied, "Oh my god, no way." I told that guy you can’t just assume all trans women have the same body.
That’s like me assuming every man I date has a big chopper... You can’t just stereotype and make your own assumptions.
Because of that stigma, people I date often feel they need to keep me a secret. I don’t blame straight men for having that mentality, because of the way society treats them. We’re proud of the journey we’ve made, so be proud to show us off. But then, as time went on, I realised that being trans doesn’t define someone. I will tell them eventually, but I’d rather they get to know me for me, rather than make their assumptions.
But, equally, I - and all trans women - deserve to be showed off, and with someone who's open about being in a relationship with me. So many people say, "I never could have guessed you were trans". I'd rather they just got to know me as woman, first.