If someone is playing hard to get with you, Ettin says this could be a sign they are playing games."Men sometimes employ these tactics, too, and that's how Neil Strauss' 'The Game' created an empire, empowering men to try 'pickup artist' techniques," she said.It sounds counter-intuitive, as you'd imagine most people would find comfort in a secure relationship.But for some, the insecurity of not really knowing where a relationship is going feels familiar, and humans are creatures of habit.The men then had to rate the women in return, and the consensus was the woman who rated them highly but everyone else poorly was the most desirable.
Social psychologist Viren Swami highlights the findings in a blog post for Refinery29.
The men didn't seem to prefer the women who had less free time.
In fact, there was no evidence at all that playing hard to get made them more desirable.
You're not dismissing every option that comes your way, but you're not giving everyone a chance either.
By doing this, you make whoever you do go for feel special, because you obviously have standards.