Dating tips for people over 40

Long gone are the days of countless single friends, countless single bars, and endless time on your hands.

And besides, you may feel a bit rusty—even nervous! Today, we’re all a lot more searchable and socially connected, so, just as you’d leave a “positive paper trail” for potential employers who Google you, you need to do the same for your love life.

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Seeing how your date interacts with other people will give you a much more well-rounded view of the person they are.

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“Take some time to be alone, be comfortable being alone and with yourself, and decide what it is that you really want out of your next relationship,” suggests Jane Coloccia, author of Some people like to meet potential dates at bars or cafes. Others prefer to go looking for love—or at least fun—online via the use of a dating app.

It’s important to figure out what feels most natural to you and resist the urge to do what works for a friend.

They range from just wanting to have fun, the desire to meet interesting people, the need or want for sex, or the biggie: the hope of falling in love. I'm actually going to take bars out of this post, A. Do I trust his judgment, his loyalty, his friendship, his love for me? Looking for love online does not mean you are desperate.

because the latest reader who asked me where to meet someone said "I'm not a fan of meeting men in bars," and B. These tenets work for me, but it's important for each one of us to find our own bespoke rules, guidelines, deal breakers, and tweak them as we grow. Now that I've accepted the fact that age doesn't matter all that much after 40 in terms of who one hooks up with, I've been getting in shape for that inevitable moment when someone walks into my life who is five, 10, even 15 years younger than me. I happen to know it means the opposite: You are confident, smart and savvy. So Dick Slick, alias "God," picks me up in his black shiny Lexus, and he's as spiffy as his car.

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