I dated a 19 year old for a while, and I was called a "cradle-robber", told I was "disgusting", and that I "must have been desperate". People only make those comments before they've actually met him and seen us together though.
All of those things were said to me by other women, and I do see a bit of it still happening on this sub. I guess they assume that his age must mean he's really immature / he's using me for my money / I'm using him for god knows what... I never set out to look for a younger partner though.
The only reason it works is because I can't tell he's younger.
We look about the same age, we act about the same age, and despite being in different stages of our life we mesh quite well.
There are plenty of gender expectations that are present even with the age gap, so they are not generally wide-eyed and submissive. We have a similar relationship and communication style.
By and large, they feel like they're about my age -- we feel like peers. I don't like clingy guys and he's nice and busy finishing up his phd.
If a shorter dude manages the same feat, I would automatically be more impressed with him. Things were great, a week later she said, "okay I need to tell you something..."She was 5 years older than me.
I could be reading too much into it though, I am frequently harassed on dating sites by guys in their teens saying they have an older woman fetish because we're apparently more dominant in bed.Actually out of the two of us, I am the submissive one and he is the more dominant.I've noticed that a lot of people seem to have a problem with women dating younger men, while older men/younger women pairings are seen as perfectly acceptable.There are couples who are about 2-8 years apart in age and they don't mind. I'm a dude, but almost all the women I've dated have been older than me. I have dated younger men, some quite a bit younger, but in NO way am I dominant, sexually, and if a younger dude was seeking older women for that reason we would not work out. I believe that age is just a number, so when I date older (or I guess potentially younger) women, it is because I like them as people, not because their age may be hint as to whether she is more dominant or submissive in the bedroom.