The state of ‘absence’ I am talking about includes both physical and emotional unavailability.
The lessons involve, understanding who men are, how they think, what they value, what they respect, and how they commit themselves in love when attracted to a woman.
The worst part of all this is the misery it creates and re-creates largely due to the fact that the original feelings of grief were never resolved.
You can save a child a lot of unhappiness when loss and the need to grieve that loss are taken seriously.
Identifying with an unavailable father can occur in the form of picking unavailable lovers, or turning oneself into an unavailable lover or both.
The point is unavailability or absence becomes part of the daughter’s love life.