Just ask any red-blooded male or female who has had a close encounter with Miss Good Looking or Mr. Hand-holding, hugging, kissing or any other similar contact can be oh so delightful.The time to make decisions about physical contact is before you get in a touchy situation.An important point to note in God’s instruction is that abstinence doesn’t have to be forever. Many of you reading this have already decided that you are going to wait to have sex until you are married. Unfortunately, many young people have engaged in these forms of physical contact and then lost their virginity because their emotions overwhelmed their sense of judgment. ” The time to make decisions about physical contact is before you get in a touchy situation.Making a decision on the fly with no forethought is a recipe for going too far.If he didn’t meet my qualifications enough to that end, I would remain friends but never make any more physical contact than a hug here or there.” Before Kate and Luke married, they said, “We got into the habit of giving each other a brief hug coming and going sometime during the first year of dating.It was good to acknowledge the way we cared for each other with something warmer than a ‘Hi.’ “It felt a bit stiff to us both as we grew to care for each other more, but anytime you are holding back feelings for the right time, things can feel awkward.
Looking back, it was a good thing, even though I questioned it at one point because it became a distraction for me for a short time—either wanting him to hold my hand, or having a difficult time reigning in my thoughts when he did.
“However, mouth-to-mouth kissing is actually one of the beginning stages of sexual intimacy and is an easy way to fast-forward to more explicit sexual contact.
Young, single people should avoid mouth-to-mouth kissing at all costs except maybe just prior to marriage (even then they must be careful to avoid lustful behavior).” Explaining how they first kissed, Kate said, “I had told Luke what a kiss meant to me as we started to grow closer.
He honored that understanding and never took advantage of any vulnerable moment.
I respected him deeply for that and still do, even as I sometimes wanted him to kiss me. I want to be your husband.’” Continuing, she recalled, “I had asked my mother when I was young if it was all right to kiss before you were married.