Couples in France do not interview each other like Americans.
When you become a couple, you get to know one another on romantic walks or visiting museums, rather than a quiet dinner together.
“On the other hand, if nothing has happened by the fourth date, you can start to worry.” Terrafemina says that sex is generally on the third date, and Rue89 says it’s on the fourth.
Americans describe their degree of sexual activity with bases (from baseball), in contrast to the French vitesses (switching into various gears).
The man, also pretending to be busy and not desperate, will generally follow a “three-day rule” in waiting to text the woman for a second date.
“A romantic relationship should move forward little by little in order to avoid a potential misunderstanding (wherein your partner could think you just want a one-night stand),” notes Meetic.
However, kissing or sleeping with someone who you are going to see again doesn’t mean that she’s your girlfriend.” All of the sources I consulted for this article had to spill a lot of ink explaining Americans’ first-stage “just dating” concept to their French readership.
“The American game of seduction is like military strategy, and it makes mincemeat of any innocent, lighthearted European daring to set foot in the land of pragmatic romance.” Dating, French language sources say, is every bit as bad as American TV series have led the French public to believe.. May the advice prove useful to those attempting to date à la américaine, and for Americans — who really ought to discover how other cultures see their romance manqué.
The word déïte — as the French phonetically spell it — doesn’t have an exact translation. “I would try to tell [American] guys, ‘I’m French; I don’t date,'” says a French expat in California, interviewed by Madame Figaro, “but it didn’t work.
Tipsy Pilgrim has previously covered these and other cultures’ ways of rating one’s sexual conquests.
“You’d think, after a first kiss, that there were only two possibilities,” says Mourad Zeggari in his blog entry on dating in the United States.