When I was in my late 20s and focusing on my career, I specifically looked for emotionally unavailable guys to date.
He was raised by an oil field worker and a housewife, though his “house” was boarding houses, and they’d lived as transiently as Okies. He’s instinctively fair, impartial and enough older than me that he was a young man and not an adolescent when feminists demanded equal work, equal pay and equal domestic responsibilities.
But if you prefer to put your career first, then date emotional unavailable men.
I grew up in a town known for hunting, fishing, bars, strip joints—even a house of ill repute, until it burned to the ground when, according to town gossip, a prostitute tried to make a grilled sandwich on a steam iron.
Instead of making the hard choice, I make sure I don't put myself in that situation in the first place. Very few people are lucky enough to have loving caring long term relationship and a successful career at the same time, especially if your industry is unstable and requires a lot of mobility. I have dreams, I have stuff I want to do with my life, which doesn't involve a family or relationship.
It's a decision you need to make for yourself.