If they are in fact open, we really don't want to know about it.
Perhaps we are witnessing here different ideals of the relations between the sexes rather than two different systems.
What we have together cannot be threatened because it is something we have found with no one else.
We have spent whole nights awake in bed with our legs and arms wrapped around each other, talking about everything in this or any other universe.
Romping recreational sex always seems like a lesser pleasure than great—if angst-filled—romantic love.Americans believe in perfect, bonded romantic love that lasts; Europeans do not.Which is not to say that they do not love—only that they think marriage is too important to be based on anything as flimsy as romantic love.But the having and growing of children, gardens, libraries, and art collections seem to demand something more permanent than romantic love allows.And now I, too, am beginning to wonder whether the European way isn't more pragmatic, more intelligent, finally more durable.