“At some point in the conversation he started to complain how tough it is to be a playwright because the hateful people who believe in guns hate him and are so mean,” Courtenay told me. “I said ‘regardless of whether you agree/disagree or how you feel about the president, he is still the president of the United States and I don’t think it’s productive to react with hate or vitriol. She responded by calling him “a racist, sexist homophobe and kicking me out,” he said. She “started calling Trump all the names and then it turned to her not believing I voted for him.I personally enjoy hearing others’ opinions and learning their perspectives and what makes them tick.’” Courtenay tried to move the conversation away from politics, but he took her willingness to listen to other opinions as proof positive she was a Trump supporter and would have nothing more to do with her. ’” You read that correctly—he literally asked her to leave because he couldn’t be with a person who suggested he should be open to other points of view. Constant interrupting me and talking over me,” he said. If you’re a Christian but a liberal, your liberal views trump your Christian views.” After Josh left, his date continued to text him telling him why he was wrong, as though constant haranguing is the way to win (in relationships or in politics).Third, and most important: Our feelings about people change as we get to know them.I never knew the ways I would grow to love #28 when I first met him, and I’m happy to learn new ways all the time.At the time, his scores were in the top three for the year. Still, after our third date I knew I didn’t want to date anyone else.And if I had updated his scores as we dated, things would have changed considerably.
Lesson learned: post more sly social media updates that clue people in to your singlehood, like, “I sure do look silly on this tandem bicycle!The other came about because he was cute and funny and staying in a really nice hotel and my car was locked up after hours in a parking garage. In 2017, dating can feel like navigating a wasteland, especially for the conservative.I sifted through literally thousands of pictures of men standing on mountains in hiking gear. I attended a fellatio class in North Portland wherein I learned that the proper etiquette after accidentally grazing your classmate with your practice dildo is to bow slightly and say, “Apologies.Playing through.” I realized that I didn’t have to date someone very long for it to sting horribly when I found out that I rated lower on their figurative spreadsheet than they did on my literal one.