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I was working at an HIV/AIDS awareness information fair in Toronto and met a student who was my age.
He pretended to be into the pamphlets but was really interested in me.
If I’m being honest, the fact that he didn’t know much about HIV probably turned me off a bit too.
And he wasn’t the only date to turn a romantic meal into a classroom session.
On my first real date when I was 16, I wore green (though I now realize that red is more my colour) and we went to watch .
I had the normal first-date jitters, plus this feeling that somehow he would know I am HIV-positive.
The teacher-student situation doesn’t really leave room for romance.
Even if my status wasn’t so public, whenever I go out with someone, I make sure that my date knows that I am HIV-positive early on.
Disclosing my status sooner rather than later is something I do—not because I plan on sleeping with them right away (of course, if I did that would be OK too)—but because I don’t want either of us to get too invested unless we both know what we’re getting into.
On some LGBTQ dating sites, there is an option to check a box if you’re HIV-positive.
After talking to a few people who use those sites, I realized a lot of people don’t feel comfortable disclosing that way. Sometimes I want my status to be the first thing I bring up, like I’m wearing it on a shirt.