However, these men are often punished by being socially labeled as "jerks", "players", or even "creeps", unfit for socially-defined relationships.Furthermore, their tactics are often designated as "sexist" (Hall & Canterberry, 2011).When punishments weight more heavily, people avoid those same behaviors.Essentially, many men report that they find modern dating a primarily punishing affair.
Given that, many men sit on the couch, plug in a video game, and opt out—just as Behaviorism and Skinner might predict.If men choose to follow social norms and become compliant as "good guys", they may get a "relationship partner". biological double-bind, these compliant men may also not be "attractive" to those same relationship partners (Buss & Shackelford, 2008).As a result, they may be punished by their girlfriend's/wife's lack of sexual interest, being cheated on, or disrespected as a "push over".Socially, they are expected to be "compliant" (i.e. However, they are also urged by women's sexual interest to maintain an "attractive personality" (i.e. Unfortunately, men sometimes report that attempting to balance these notions does not result in satisfaction, happiness, or women's appreciation and respect.The men that I speak with (and who commented on my last post) lament about being in a "no win situation" in modern dating.